We have all
become victims of frustration, some of us more than others. But is it true that
it's all because of bad luck? Actually, no. As a psychiatrist to comment. It
was easy to regard it as a common complaint and did not bother to look any
further.
The fate or luck is generally a result of taking appropriate action. If we are passive, if we do not quite handle our affairs, then we will become victims of all sorts of bad luck. Take as an example of a woman who complained because washerwoman damaging her pants, unconsciously stated that she challenged the risk of continuing to use the services of a laundress. Another friend who is involved with difficult neighbors and wasting time, declare a pattern with her comments. "It always happens". She let that happen.
If we allow ourselves to accept bad luck like that, there is usually a reason. We may feel that we can not or should not take action. Some of us have a fear of the unconscious. The others tend to blame society for the things that goes wrong. Community helped create the drug addicts, the alcoholics and homeless people. But if we drop the blame to someone else, it will cause us not to look into and review our role in what happened.
It also encourages passivity. If we continue to carry a grudge us in childhood, was swamped with bad luck because everything is a misunderstanding of our parents, for example, then we will strive to improve our luck. No matter who is to blame, it's up to us to take care of our lives as well as possible.
Once you realize your own role in creating the situation is not good, you are alone in creating the situation is not good, you will be able to make changes. After that things will get better. Throughout destiny, fate and fortune concerned, we have all been given specific resources and capabilities as well as inability. What do you do with what you have will help you determine your luck. Fault lies not in our stars but in ourselves.
The more we act to change our destiny, the more we take care of everything, the more we feel safe anyway. On the second person to do something positive, she will feel happy, no longer he felt angry, because mastery and activities is a healthy living conditions.
All sorts of cues will help you know when you have to let go of a bad situation. Repetition is a red flag, a sign that you need to make changes. My friend who married three times and did not get happiness complain, "I have bad luck in love." But each time, she chose the man who had alcoholic problems. If repeated failures and mistakes that lead to frustration in a specific area of our lives many times, accumulation of harmful effects often make us draw the conclusion that we had bad luck in case it gets a husband or a thousand other issues.
If you start to see a pattern of things goes wrong, ask yourself, "What is my role in this? Why do I feel bound? Or caught up in this situation? What makes me complain about it, open it to take action to resolve it? So ask was criticism to yourself.
One aspect of self criticism involves the ability to judge and criticize that always plagued by problems, which have a very emotional dependency cleave to you to channel the emotional burden. We must review the pretext us to waste time with people who have such emotional dependency. What exactly are fished ourselves to it?
People get caught up in problems of her friends because they want so because it distract him from having to do things that are more difficult. Could only give attention to her friend without compromising the entire time. So if you feel depressed and bear the burden is too heavy, review your role to look lest your own attitude is not so pleasing others.
Sometimes when we are anxious about many things or disturbed by a problem we tend to want to get rid of all of this from our consciousness. Many of us who do not want to show concern with the dreamy, quiet moved to a beautiful island in the Caribbean to turn to alcohol or eating beyond the limit or out and spend money on things we do not need. This is the action that keeps luck. And it often happens on the day when we got misfortune.
Instead of escaping from the frustrating experience this way, why not ask yourself. "What could I do that would make me feel or talk for hours on the phone or invade the fridge. Instead do a job even household chores you do not like, such as washing dirty dishes piled up. The result of that is not how this will stimulate new feelings about pleasure and a sense of security, because you feel good about yourself for having to handle something.
Making small changes will make a you prefer yourself. And if you have more love yourself, you will begin to do more useful things and improve your life in ha little things that can get to things bigger and it certainly was luck.
The fate or luck is generally a result of taking appropriate action. If we are passive, if we do not quite handle our affairs, then we will become victims of all sorts of bad luck. Take as an example of a woman who complained because washerwoman damaging her pants, unconsciously stated that she challenged the risk of continuing to use the services of a laundress. Another friend who is involved with difficult neighbors and wasting time, declare a pattern with her comments. "It always happens". She let that happen.
If we allow ourselves to accept bad luck like that, there is usually a reason. We may feel that we can not or should not take action. Some of us have a fear of the unconscious. The others tend to blame society for the things that goes wrong. Community helped create the drug addicts, the alcoholics and homeless people. But if we drop the blame to someone else, it will cause us not to look into and review our role in what happened.
It also encourages passivity. If we continue to carry a grudge us in childhood, was swamped with bad luck because everything is a misunderstanding of our parents, for example, then we will strive to improve our luck. No matter who is to blame, it's up to us to take care of our lives as well as possible.
Once you realize your own role in creating the situation is not good, you are alone in creating the situation is not good, you will be able to make changes. After that things will get better. Throughout destiny, fate and fortune concerned, we have all been given specific resources and capabilities as well as inability. What do you do with what you have will help you determine your luck. Fault lies not in our stars but in ourselves.
The more we act to change our destiny, the more we take care of everything, the more we feel safe anyway. On the second person to do something positive, she will feel happy, no longer he felt angry, because mastery and activities is a healthy living conditions.
All sorts of cues will help you know when you have to let go of a bad situation. Repetition is a red flag, a sign that you need to make changes. My friend who married three times and did not get happiness complain, "I have bad luck in love." But each time, she chose the man who had alcoholic problems. If repeated failures and mistakes that lead to frustration in a specific area of our lives many times, accumulation of harmful effects often make us draw the conclusion that we had bad luck in case it gets a husband or a thousand other issues.
If you start to see a pattern of things goes wrong, ask yourself, "What is my role in this? Why do I feel bound? Or caught up in this situation? What makes me complain about it, open it to take action to resolve it? So ask was criticism to yourself.
One aspect of self criticism involves the ability to judge and criticize that always plagued by problems, which have a very emotional dependency cleave to you to channel the emotional burden. We must review the pretext us to waste time with people who have such emotional dependency. What exactly are fished ourselves to it?
People get caught up in problems of her friends because they want so because it distract him from having to do things that are more difficult. Could only give attention to her friend without compromising the entire time. So if you feel depressed and bear the burden is too heavy, review your role to look lest your own attitude is not so pleasing others.
Sometimes when we are anxious about many things or disturbed by a problem we tend to want to get rid of all of this from our consciousness. Many of us who do not want to show concern with the dreamy, quiet moved to a beautiful island in the Caribbean to turn to alcohol or eating beyond the limit or out and spend money on things we do not need. This is the action that keeps luck. And it often happens on the day when we got misfortune.
Instead of escaping from the frustrating experience this way, why not ask yourself. "What could I do that would make me feel or talk for hours on the phone or invade the fridge. Instead do a job even household chores you do not like, such as washing dirty dishes piled up. The result of that is not how this will stimulate new feelings about pleasure and a sense of security, because you feel good about yourself for having to handle something.
Making small changes will make a you prefer yourself. And if you have more love yourself, you will begin to do more useful things and improve your life in ha little things that can get to things bigger and it certainly was luck.
